4 Clues You Need Relationship Counseling
Ups and downs are normal in relationships. There will be moments where you feel close and times you feel distant. There is a saying that couples fall in and out of love and I believe this to be true. However, there comes a time when a relationship is facing more serious issues that may be destructive if not dealt with.
1. You are co-dependent.
Do you feel you have lost your identity? Are you so wrapped up in your relationship that you have lost sight of yourself and the things you once enjoyed? Trust and insecurity are usually a key factor to this type of behavior. Perhaps you are concerned your partner may be having an affair. It is easy to become suspicious or even paranoid about what your partner is up to when things are not good. Perhaps you or your partner have trust issues from a previous experience. Either way trust your intuition and don’t ignore the signs. It is time to do something before things get out of control.
2. You’re needs are not being met.
I work with couples all the time that are afraid to ask for what they need from their partner. They are literally walking on eggshells assuming they are doing the right thing by ignoring their needs. Unfortunately unmet needs often foster resentment and later destroy relationships. If you plan on being with this person long term it is imperative that you learn how to ask for what you want and need from them. The argument you are avoiding today may be the downfall of your relationship.
3. You are comparing your relationship to others.
This is more common today than ever because of social media but is also a sign that you may be unsatisfied. Notice what you are admiring and ask yourself does my relationship have the potential to improve in these areas? It’s easy to become negative and wonder if the grass is greener elsewhere when you don’t recognize the positives within your relationship. Before you give up hope work on improving what is lacking.
4. You don’t fight fair.
Conflict and or disagreements are a normal part of most relationships but how you fight is extremely important to the success of the relationship. The breaking down of a relationship via disrespect and aggression starts slow but quickly escalates. Once words are spoken they cannot be taken back and many couples struggle forgiving each other when they have been hurt in this manner.
If you feel your relationship is in trouble don’t ignore the signs. I often see couples take their relationship for granted and leave the doors wide open for major problems to occur. By the time they get to me so much damage has been done. If you are going through a difficult time in your relationship don’t give up. Put in the work. Call us today to fix your relationship.